Things Nia Hates about the Yaoi Fandom
There are many things I hate. Okay so I will admit that there was a time when I was like, "OMGPRETTYSLEEPTOGETHER" but that was a long long time ago.. and in the ensuing time I grew a brain which I am now very fond of.
Once again to clarify, I love yaoi. I love boy sex, boy's love, porn. Whatever floats your boat. When I RP, my guys are very rarely of the sort to sleep with women. I will never IC have my guys sleep with a woman, and het RP.. only if you are very special to me. X_x And I want to make you happy. However the yaoi fandom is a pit of voles as alot of you realize. There are excellent people in the fandom... excellent writers, people who share the same like-minded opinions as myself. But every once in awhile I get a bit of hate in my system that I just need to dispell.
Nia's H8 #1: Weepy!Ukes. Okay this is my biggest pet peeves. I hate the girlyfying of men period. My favorite bishounen, are such bishounen who would never act in such a way. I pride them on being exactly who they are.. strong, intelligent individuals. But often times I see them portrayed as sniveling girls without babymakers. (And even then some of the fanfictionists push that envelop.. damn MPREG.). A man can be beautiful -and- strong, emotionally calm and serene. If you are going to give bishounen feminine characteristics.. then give them ADMIRABLE ones. Like empathy, intuition or a nurturing demeanor. (Pets my Magus Bainbridge). Don't have them whining all over the place. It's just.. no. Hell even I wouldn't go out with a girl like that.
Nia's H8 #2: Let's get rid of top, bottom, seme and uke all together. What about that? Equality is good. So many times I run into RPers who can only play bottoms and the whatnot. You know what I say to that? Better get versitile. I absolutely will not play with anyone who cannot play both ends of the spectrum. Most of my favorite pairings, the guys are equal on a certain level.. even in my favorite pairings where it doesn't look equal. (like Clavis and Lumiale) I believe in a healthy dose of switching. It makes it more fun. I will never say that my characters are strictly so and so.. because that's not playing fair.. at least not with my muses.
Nia's H8 #3: Smut is good. But characterization is BETTER. And the excuse that 'they look good banging together' does not count. I will be the first to admit that I love my smut fics (Hell, I am the moderator of yaoi_smut_fics, I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't like them) but come on.. start getting your libidos out of a gutter and start writing those introspective fics. You like two guys together. Start giving them reasons to be together. You'll find that the ensuing smut will be well worth it.. as you've taken the opportunity to have your characters -be real- in all aspects of the words.
Nia's H8 #4: Yaoi is not 'teh pure and true love' Sorry to disabuse your notions, but most yaoi is some pretty sick and twisted things. Anyone who thinks it is pure, is far more messed up then I could even begin to imagine.
Nia's H8 #5: Female bashing. Not all females are horrible. There are a few examples that I will not enumerate, that sort of make me want to spork my eyes out. But no, women are not teh evil and preventing your guys from getting it on. I happen to adore Yui.. who is married to my favorite character, who in turn in my mind sleeps with Sigurd. I find Yui to be a wonderfully intriquing character, and her and Citan's dynamics are wonderful.
Nia's H8 #6: Real Homosexuality = Yaoi. That is the biggest crock of BS that I'll post here. No, it is not. Yaoi is a female's version of homosexuality. A female's interpertation of -any- sort of relationship is fucked up. Hell, I should know. But then essentially, yaoi is a big fantasy for females to drool over. Enough said.
Nia's H8 #7: Yaoi Hater means Homophobe. No it does not. It just means that they dislike what they dislike.. just because I dislike het does not mean that I hate heterosexual people. If that was the case, being that I am surrounded by heterosexual people constantly, it would cause me more problems that I would like.
There.. that's been my hate for the day. Feel free to respond if you wish!